The Offender Vs. The Offended
Soup Talk – The Offender Vs. The Offended
By: ERIN N. SIMON
Inspired, In-Spirit Publishing 2015®
As human beings, our life experiences are based on perception. Often, this perception is limited in its view, especially since it is fueled by your experiences. Good experiences leave a wonderful memory. Bad experiences and tragedies, leave a bitter residue. The more DIVERSE life experiences you have, the less limited your perspective becomes.
As SPIRITUAL BEINGS, we are naturally able to supplement limited perspective. By taking the time to seek inward, you are able to get a better comprehensive view of situations and life experiences. This requires patience and maturation.
Offense seems to occur in life, when there is limited perception on one or more parties. One party lacks a comprehensive view on a situation or matter and speaks in a manner that insults another person(s).
When one is able to place more emphasis on their spiritual nature, than on their physical nature, being offended occurs less. This happens especially, when the spiritual being has a comprehensive understanding, that the offending party, lacks knowledge and understanding of the matter and/or situation.
Expand your life experiences. The best way to do this is to travel. Human interactions – not the one’s programmed by the media – but the actual interaction with multiple cultures, reading more, and traveling will greatly increase your life experiences from a human standpoint.
As a SPIRTUAL BEING having a human experience, take time out of your day to nurture your SPIRITUAL nature. No formal meditation is required. Simply carve out some time from your day and connect to your Divine Source. For me, it is going into a quiet place, closing my eyes, and opening my spiritual eye, as I connect to Source.
My Divine Source is The Holy Spirit. In that place and in that time, I often receive revelatory experiences. What that does, is offer me a comprehensive view of whatever situation or matter I am faced with. When my heart is not offended, my experiences (good or bad) become beneficial pertinent life lessons. I begin to OVERSTAND the matter which transforms the knowledge of it into wisdom.
Many times, offense enters the picture, when people refuse to look at themselves. Even in insult, there is a lesson that can benefit you. Expanding your perspective by nurturing your spiritual self can lessen offense in your life. While you may still offend others (because they are lacking maturation and perspective) you will still benefit from the interaction and the lesson.
When feeling offended, ask yourself some questions:
Am I offended because deep down inside it’s true? If so, be honest with yourself. While you may not like the way it was presented to you, take it as an opportunity to analyze and implement change.
Am I able to keep an open mind? Are you able to meditate on this situation and come up with a conclusion? Is this serving as a teaching moment? Can this experience in anyway enhance your life or the lives of others?
Could it be that the person offending me is limited in their understanding? I put this one last, because, we as human, always want to be right. Asking the previous questions first, forces you to open your mind, which may open your spirit, and a learning opportunity may present itself. If the person is limited in their understanding, is there a way you are able to teach them, or inform them otherwise? Sometimes, even in heated discussions, the opposing party, who may not immediately agree with you, may walk away learning something from you.
In a world that loves labels and stereotypes, let us as Spiritual Beings having a Human Experience, find ways to be less offended and implement ways to increase our perspectives. In increasing our perspective, we are able to OVERSTAND the world we live in and influence others in the same.
Be Blessed & Bless Others,
ERIN N. SIMON
ERIN N. SIMON is a writer, blogger, and visionary in raising the conscious level within the African American Community. One of her passions is to create a Black Media that truly matters, is promotable, and shared with as many people as possible. In 2013, She and her husband started Inspired, In-Spirit Ministries where they have a real estate arm in Detroit Michigan. They have recently started a Publishing Company called Inspired, In-Spirit Publishing which have three published books on their shelves; Interruption: Shae's Search, Interruption: Interlude & The Series Finale Interruption: Alter Ego. Her husband has a company known as GS Investments in which financial freedom is gained one investment at a time. She currently resides in Florida with her husband and three handsome sons...